Lessons in power through kink/bdsm dynamics
Ep. 04 - A conversation with queer Dom, painter, and writer Michelle Jane Lee
Each time my friend Michelle Jane Lee would tell me about her relationship with kink/BDSM my mind was sparked with intrigue. As a firm Dom, she would explain her relationships, particularly with a perfect ex-Sub, as entering a “space beyond love”.
I couldn't believe it when she said that. I had never heard something so beautiful, especially about kink/BDSM. To be frank, I didn’t know too much about the world, but the way she examined it hyper-intrigued me.
Given the fact Michelle is a devastatingly talented painter, poet/writer, and chef — it’s no surprise I was viscerally touched by her explanations. Her perspective is glistening. Each time we’d dive into the topic it would leave me with tears in my eyes.
When Michelle told me she was launching High Protocol to share her knowledge on kink/BDSM, I was static with electricity. I told her we needed to have a conversation on the podcast immediately.
Our conversation below floored me.
On this episode, we dive into the poetic intricacies of the realms shared between the Sub and the Dom. Plus, we investigate how to apply these power structures towards a broader sense of the world, to see if in some way, this analysis can help you identify and activate untapped realms of your own power.
What stood out to me most in our discussion, is that a Sub and a Dom play equal roles. One does not have more power than the other. Their power is shared, split, like tipping scales. One person being the cup, the other as the water being poured.
Perhaps the most revelatory thing I learned, however, was that to surrender is an act of agency. One does not fall into being a submissive. It is a choice.
So, shifting this to a larger lens — when you move through the world, it is in your interest to be conscious of the power you are surrendering or utilizing. You do not have to let power be unconsciously stripped from you. You have a choice. Even in the most microscopic way, you have a choice.
I really hope you enjoy this conversation. That it opens new forms of thought that change everything for you.
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