are you accepting a life you don't really want?

the case for active living

It can be really easy to fall into bouts of passiveness in my life.

I can often reduce myself to my surroundings, simply because it takes less focused energy. It’s easier to live and be distracted. It’s easier to take what’s handed to me and model my own life based off of what is popularly rewarded.

It’s harder to not take what is handed to me. It’s harder to pull my hand back. It’s harder to instead say, “No, this is instead what I want.”

It’s not necessarily that living a passive life is “easier,” per se, but it requires less digging. Being passive, in my opinion, means you are less inclined to yourself. You are more okay with accepting the forces that appear larger than you. And in some ways, being passive is a tool for survival. By not disrupting your surroundings, you are usually rewarded by them.

Well, rewarded by their metrics.

Truthfully, there are times in your life where you might need to be more passive. There are also times in your life where you will need to be more active.

However, I don’t think you can be passive and tuned into your intuition at the same time. Observing and tuning your own frequency will require you to adjust your surroundings in order to reach harmony.

Once you notice you’re dissatisfied in an area of your life and you begin to ask the question “Why?” — it’s harder to go back to your previous state. The key is to move from a passive state of dissatisfaction into an active state of introspection.

What am I unhappy with? What would make me feel better and more aligned with what I truly want? How can I make tiny, active changes to make these results come true?

Let’s take my room, for example.

I am notorious for not nesting. I hardly decorate, upgrade my furniture, or put anything on my walls. Life gets too distracting and I forget. It just feels like there are other, more important things I need to do. However, what then happens is, I end up feeling lethargic, unclear, and unfocused. My home base feels like a weird representation of me, which then feeds itself into my art and life decisions.

My distracted decision-making of not shelling out money to buy new lighting, sound systems, furniture, and wall art, because it seemed smarter to save my money, has actually been affecting the money I could have been generating by being inspired by my living space. Since my room does not lend itself to a state of inspiration for me, it thus affects my creative output. It affects my long-term goal of making a living from my artistry.

For me, inspiration comes from sound, colors, and imagery. My environment needs to reflect these values that feed my inspiration.

Colors, sounds, images, frequencies — these are all things we can use to enter our desired dimension of living.

Spinning this out to you, where are areas in your life where you are doing yourself a disservice by not paying attention to the subtle things you need?

How are you holding yourself back by not withdrawing from the world (for a few moments) to ask yourself what it is you really want?

I think the feelings we desire are accessible. We just have to find the entry points to channel and create them.

Today, I bought myself a really nice speaker. I was tired of using my iPhone’s. Impeccable sound is important to me. It fuels the lubricant in my mind to spur ideas and breakthroughs. See, I observed within myself how I operate at a higher, more exquisite frequency when good sound floods my ears. And essentially, when you break it down, writing is the work of sound — a type of music tethered and torn together to create language. So I feel it is of no accident I desire immaculate sound around me as I sculpt my own writings. It allows a similar precision of my own thought to fill the page.

I think about this in terms of dating, where it’s easy to settle for the dating pool that is visible to me, most often from scrolling and re-scrolling apps. Well, what if I stopped treating dating that way? What if I instead lunged deeper into the passions that excite me and focused on meeting people who are on the same frequency as me? Both platonic and romantic, so that finding my ideal boyfriend is less of a strained search and more so an obvious result of focused actions.

Where in your life do you cut yourself short because you are doing what makes the most outward “sense” to other people?

Think in your daily life, at work, in your friendships, in your dating — how are you going against yourself, in these micro-ways, that affect the macro?

Where are you following the crowd or what’s easiest (i.e., the most passive)?

Where are you accepting what is offered to you, even though you know it is not fully what you want?

What if you began to specifically ask for everything you wanted? Even the nonsensical things? And you cleared your life to only include those things, people, and actions which ring at this frequency of truth?

How do you imagine this will bleed into other areas of your life? Where you will begin to take more care of yourself? How might this lend to you speaking up more in your relationships and not brushing things off because you think they aren’t important? How will you begin to carve the life of your desires in these micro-instances of harmony?

What is it that you want that you don’t have?

Why is it that you don’t have it?

What does having it feel like?

What does it look like?

Is there a way to start feeling those things right now?

Does access to a version of it already exist right now in your atmosphere?

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